When I came to Nigeria last year, I knew his name and his face and that outrageous style and wild hair from the blogs. I thought, “Who is this mad man and how can I meet him??”. I expected to run into him once or twice and keep it moving. I expected the same distant and snobbish personality that i had grown to loathe in Nigerian celebs. And i did meet him more more than once or twice but…What the blogs and stories failed to capture is that this man despite all his success, despite the roar and hum of being misunderstood and the green circle in a crowd of beige squares, despite thousands of fans and hundreds of haters, despite withstanding countless critics and succession of sycophants, despite all that and more, what you could never know by looking at him is that this man @denrele_edun is one of the kindest, most generous, most open hearted, most everything right with the world you would ever want to meet. His heart is big and full as his hair. His smile is the only thing that rivals his personality in volume.
Despite Nigeria’s conservative and stuffy nature, this wild child, son of the night and reflection of sunshine has managed to thrive as an original version of himself when others are scrambling to be carbon copies of each other. And with all that he has, he spares no hesitation in sharing it all. A man who truly has it all is never afraid of losing it. You embody that.
Denrele, my love, you are the real authentic and I am honored to share the planet with you and consider myself lucky to know that big heart packed into that size zero body. Happy birthday to you and happy you day to us!
I had the great honor of writing and recording a poem for the project. Will link to the song as soon as I can. #lastnameIkpi firstnameBassey
Please read and comment on this @bellanaija article about my return to Nigeria.
Stir fried vegetable quinoa. I’m exhausted. I can barely eat. Too damn hot to cook in this country. It’s good though. I’m going to look at it some more and then take a nap.
I’ve been loved and I’ve loved hard but never in it, always just off to the side. Always just a circling the drain. I never fell. On the outside looking in. I was never pushed. I figured out what “normal” looked like in a relationship and I tried to emulate it as best I could. When I slipped,…
OH MY GOD
Yes, I was thinking of Gnarls Barkley when I wrote this. Why do you ask?
Also, this is my latest for XOJane.com discussing my life living with bipolar II disorder. It’s the most honest I’ve been about this. I usually tend to get clinical and distant but this time, I wanted to really try and understand what happens in this brain of mine.
Things I forgot I wrote
Part of the reason why my article for XOJane was so difficult for me was because of how raw it was. I think over the years, due to my career as a performer, how to give people a very little and make them feel like they’re getting everything. I did it on twitter and I do it on blog on occasion. You…
Things I forgot I wrote but really needed to read. Wow.