Anonymous asked: 3, 31, 86 n 77 (whatever 'it' means)

3. Wow. That’s a tough one. Aggravated AND happy at the same time?  I honestly don’t know. Let me answer the other questions and see if I can think of something by the end. 

31. ha! no. I did have a wine glass in my underwear drawer and a half full bottle of coconut rum in my closet once but they are no longer there. No empty bottles as of now, however. 

86. No. I’ve had crushes on friends but the male best friends I’ve had, I’ve never had any inkling of romantic feelings for them ever. Ever. Ever. Ever. I don’t think it’s gross or anything, I just don’t see them like that. And have had no desire to change that. 

77. Absolutely. I’ve made some poor choices in  my past but they were always “worth it”. Even if just to clearly illustrate what it is that I need to avoid and what I need to build on. Are the “worth it” for me now? I don’t think so. YOU on the other hand should never think anything other than “yes. totally worth it.” 

Maybe I’m not that “happy” with it but for some reason, lately, I don’t think happiness is the goal anymore. The opposite of depressed isn’t “happy” so I don’t think it conflicts with my mental health philosophies. 

I’m just really coming to realize that all the “if you build it; it will come.” in the world won’t erase a series of bad decisions and wrong turns. I have regrets. I don’t dwell on the regrets but I do acknowledge that those choices have lead me to where I am and pretending that’s not the case doesn’t make them less true. 

What I want is no longer available to me. It’s not tragic. It is what it is. Like going to the store and seeing that they’ve discontinued your favorite product or if the store is closed. Do you stand in the parking lot and cry and wish that it would reopen? or do you figure out another way? 

I need to figure out another way. It’s as simple as that. Now, what that way is? Not so simple. 

personalsheifunmi:

Early birthday gift ;) ! I turn 20 tomorrow January 30th ;p (Taken with instagram)

You TURN TWENTY???? I can’t even talk to you anymore. My current pajamas are older than you are. This can not be real life.

Anonymous asked: So, this is Even-Going-To-The-ATM-Brings-Me-Anxiety Girl, just with the really exciting news that reporting for jury duty didn't kill me. It was tiring, boring and full of people that don't understand what being quiet means, but I survived. I even felt normal and grown-up going out to lunch by myself, instead of just reading and chain-smoking, like I used to do. I tell you this only because I have no one else who'd even remotely understand why any of this is special.

Yay!!! I’m so proud of you.

Speaking as someone who has a folder filled with unopen bills, I know how important it is. I hope you write this down as a win for the week. 

vagabondaesthetics asked: 2, 34, 49, and 68

2. Honey, I don’t date anyone I could have birthed. I just recently decided to drop the younger than age to 6 years. And it will stay there until I’m in my 40s. 

34. 2005 

49. Yes and no. On the surface, it’s the same but deeper than that, I’ve grown into an understanding now that I didn’t have then. For better or worse, I’m a bit less of a dreamer. I’m settling into who I am and what I have available to me now. I used to think that I could have and do and be anything I wanted because I was talented and smart and relatively good looking (I’m dope as fuck.) but being all that means nothing in the grand scheme of things. I’ve settled into an understanding. My good years are behind me, my goal now is to avoid fucking up the years ahead and those that affect my son.

that was a sad answer… 

ramblingsofanurbanjawn asked: 55. Are you good at hiding your feelings? 56. Do you think you like someone? Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated?

55. Yes. But I’m also good at pretending that I’m not good at hiding my feelings. BP2, sucka, what up? 

56. yes.

Yup. Fucked around and had a child with him. I’ve since learned that if everyone dislikes someone, then I need to step back and out of my ego and look at that person clearly. I’m both a Leo and live with bipolar II, my judgment can be a bit off when I’m in crisis. 

graham-bailey asked: 5. 29. 62. Miss you.

5. Nope because I’m not. if I was talking to the person I do want to talk to, then there will be thousands upset. I’m not exaggerating. This is true facts. One of the man reasons I refrain from dating public figures. If it can be helped. 

29. I’m wearing a Howard University sweatshirt. I used to be a poet and Id’ go to different colleges and shit poeticizing. Schools would probably give me sweatshirts. I will probably wear those shits. 

62. Yes.

Ditto. 

Invade my privacy. Anon or not. :)

1. Think of the last person who said I love you, do you think they meant it?
2. Would you date an 18-year-old at the age you are now?
3. When’s the last time you were aggravated and happy at the same time?
4. Would you ever smile at a stranger?
5. Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are?
6. Have you heard a song that reminds you of someone today?
7. What exactly are you wearing right now?
8. How often do you listen to music?
9. Do you wear jeans or sweats more?
10. Do you think your life will change dramatically before 2012?
11. Are you a social or an antisocial person?
12. Have you ever kissed someone whose name begins with the letter ‘A’?
13. What about ‘R’?
14. Can you drive a stick shift?
15. Do you care if people talk badly about you?
16. Are you going out of town soon?
17. When was the last time you cried?
18. Have you ever told someone you loved them?
19. If you could change your eye color, would you?
20. Is there a boy who you would do absolutely everything for?
21. Name something you dislike about the day you’re having.
22. Is it cute when guys kiss you on your forehead?
23. Are you dating the last person you talked to?
24. What are you sitting on right now?
25. Does anyone regularly (other than family) tell you they love you?
26. Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have?
27. Who was the last person you talked to before you went to bed last night?
28. Do you get a lot of colds?
29. Where is the shirt you are wearing from?
30. Does anyone hate you?
31. Do you have any empty alcohol bottles hidden somewhere in your room?
32. Do you like watching scary movies?
33. Do you want your tongue pierced?
34. If you had to delete one year of your life completely, which would it be?
35. Did you have a dream last night?
36. When was the last time you told someone you loved them?
37. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years?
38. Do you think someone has feelings for you?
39. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now?
40. Did you have a good day yesterday?
41. Think back 2 months ago; were you in a relationship?
42. In the next 48 hours, will you hang out with a girl?
43. Has anyone told you they don’t want to ever lose you?
44. What’s the best part about school?
45. Do you have any pictures on your Facebook?
46. Do you ever pass notes to your friends in school?
47. Do you replay things that have happened in your head?
48. Were you single over the last summer?
49. Is your life anything like it was two years ago?
50. What are you supposed to be doing right now?
51. Do you hate the last guy you had a conversation with?
52. Are you nice to everyone?
53. Have you ever liked someone you didn’t expect to?
54. Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat?
55. Are you good at hiding your feelings?
56. Do you think you like someone?
57. Have you kissed someone whose name starts with a ‘J’?
58. Do you prefer to be friends with girls or boys?
59. Has anyone of your friends ever seen you cry?
60. Do you hate anyone?
61. How’s your heart?
62. Is there something that happened in your past that you hate talking about?
63. Have you ever cried over a guy?
64. Who is probably talking a load of crap about you right now?
65. Are your toenails painted pink?
66. Will your next kiss be a mistake?
67. Girls love it when boyfriends cry; correct?
68. Have your pants ever fallen down in public?
69. Who was the last person you were on the phone with?
70. How do you look right now?
71. Do you have someone you can be your complete self around?
72. Can you commit to one person?
73. Do you have someone of the opposite sex you can tell everything to?
74. Have you ever felt replaced?
75. Did you wake up cranky?
76. Are you a jealous person?
77. Are relationships ever worth it?
78. Anyone you’re giving up on?
79. Currently wanting to see anyone?
80. Name something you have to do tomorrow?
81. Last person you cried in front of?
82. Is there someone you will never forget?
83. Do you think the person you have feelings for is protective of you?
84. If the person you wish to be with were with you, what would you be doing right now?
85. Are you over your past?
86. Have you ever liked one of your best friends of the opposite sex?
87. Is there anyone you can tell EVERYTHING to?
88. If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents, would you accept?
89. So, the last person you kissed just happens to arrive at your door at 3AM; do you let them in?
90. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated?
91. Will you be in a relationship in 2 months?
92. Is there anyone you know with the name Michael?
93. Have you ever kissed a Matthew?
94. Were you in a relationship in January? How was it going?
95. Were you happy with the person you liked in March?
96. Don’t tell me lies, is the last person you texted attractive?
97. Who do you have texts from?
98. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say?
99. Have you ever kissed someone older than you?
100. Who’s in your profile picture with you?
101. Ever kissed under fireworks?
102. Has anybody ever given you butterflies?

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I respect people’s decisions not to vote or vote third party but when people say…same, I..

, in this day and age, I can’t respect the name

With all due respect to you, I can’t respect people who choose NOT to vote. I may muster up a bit of respect for those who vote 3rd party, however, the way things are now, with so many things hanging in the balance, to choose not to vote under some moral high ground or pretentiousness and posturing is despicable. If you can comfortably sit home on some “the system is bullshit” and watch as human and civil rights are used as bargaining chips, I have absolutely no respect for you or the causes you claim to support. 

Silence and inaction are complicity. 

super-eklectic1:

witchsistah:

kyssthis16:

somethingratchet:

jamal-edwards:

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious. When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the President’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private. They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner. Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle, why was he so interested in talking to you. She mentioned that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her. President Obama then said, “so if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant”, to which Michelle responded, “no, if I had married him, he would now be the President.”

This lady!

Welp………………..

Michelle is a boss

She is amazing but not because of this. I heard the same about Hillary/Bill when they were in office. Snope refutes it as well. 

http://www.snopes.com/politics/humor/marriedhim.asp

Saying that Democrats are merely the lesser of two evils is like saying a paper cut is the lesser of two diseases. The system is definitely flawed but only one “side” is advocating bringing back public hangings, spouting poorly disguised racist rhetoric, attempting to destroy and diminish civil liberties and turning back the clock on women’s reproductive rights. 

I’m so over this bullshit “oh well, the entire system is flawed”. Yeah and? So you’re not going to vote or throw away your vote to prove a point? Fuck you. You’re an idiot. 

Now what? 

I used to lie and say I don’t have a type.

Clearly, I have a type. 

Also, I can’t date men with locks. I feel like if anything else, we should have different hair. Not to mention the fact that I can’t even tell you how many times my hair has found itself around my neck and I wake up screaming thinking I’m being murdered. I can’t imagine sleeping next to someone with locks, I’d catch a self defense charge. Also, if you’re hair is too neat, I got questions but if you’re hair is too messy, I can’t be seen with you. Why do we even put ourselves through this, fictional ex-boyfriend with locks? 

I’m going to go to bed. Nothing Good can come of this google and tumblr search I’m on…

I’ll fuck around and find a blog dedicated to “him” and then I’ll cry because…

*plays Beyonce* Why don’t you  love me? Tell me… why don’t you love me?

When I make me so damn easy to love! 

*Les Twins shimmy* 

*Lau Split*

*criminalz*

*Twins eye thingie*

ajciti:

Sexy Nigerian Men

Second from the right. Chief, how you dey?  

Is there a fuckyeahNigerianMen tumblr? Would you mind starting one? thanks.