February 2012
44 posts
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives...”
– Brene Brown
“I don’t think it’s a virtue or an accomplishment to hide or deny your pain so...”
– #186: The lie of “strength.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via notemily)
Love this.
“Sometimes we expect more from others, because we’d be willing to do much more...”
– Unknown (via sharvondaphotog)
Definitely needed to read this this morning.
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I was so excited to read Diamond Life by @aliyasking that I turned off all the lights and hopped into bed. Then, I picked up the book and stared at it wondering why the pages weren’t lit up so I could read them. I’m ashamed to admit to you just how long I stared into the dark trying to figure out who broke the book…
This is what happens when you haven’t picked up a...
reroutedreams asked: 42.
48, 58, 73 — thisisshe
48. Hells yeah I do. I’m fucking amazing when I sing in the shower. I have no idea what voo doo keeps me unable to sing outside of the shower but I’m fucking awesome in the shower. like I should win shit for this.
58. Always. I have De ja vu so often, I have to wonder if I had a bad memory in my past lives as well.
73. Happy tears are just as annoying, if...
mandishga asked: I always want to say something to you but can never put all of the words together in a way that truly represents how you make me feel. I write letters to you often. You may never see one but you keep me writing and I want to thank you for just being you.
Questions not usually asked:
1: Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed?
2: Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel?
3: Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out?
4: Have you ever stolen a street sign before?
5: Do you like to use post-it notes?
6: Do you cut out coupons but then never use them?
7: Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of a bees?
8: Do you have freckles?
9: Do you always smile for pictures?
10: What is your biggest pet peeve?
11: Do you ever count your steps when you walk?
12: Have you ever peed in the woods?
13: What about pooped in the woods?
14: Do you ever dance even if theres no music playing?
15: Do you chew your pens and pencils?
16: How many people have you slept with this week?
17: What size is your bed?
18: What is your Song of the week?
19: Is it okay for guys to wear pink?
20: Do you still watch cartoons?
21: Whats your least favorite movie?
22: Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some?
23: What do you drink with dinner?
24: What do you dip a chicken nugget in?
25: What is your favorite food?
26: What movies could you watch over and over and still love?
27: Last person you kissed/kissed you?
28: Were you ever a boy/girl scout?
29: Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine?
30: When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper?
31: Can you change the oil on a car?
32: Ever gotten a speeding ticket?
33: Ever ran out of gas?
34: Favorite kind of sandwich?
35: Best thing to eat for breakfast?
36: What is your usual bedtime?
37: Are you lazy?
38: When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween?
39: What is your Chinese astrological sign?
40: How many languages can you speak?
41: Do you have any magazine subscriptions?
42: Which are better legos or lincoln logs?
43: Are you stubborn?
44: Who is better...Leno or Letterman?
45: Ever watch soap operas?
46: Are you afraid of heights?
47: Do you sing in the car?
48: Do you sing in the shower?
49: Do you dance in the car?
50: Ever used a gun?
51: Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer?
52: Do you think musicals are cheesy?
53: Is Christmas stressful?
54: Ever eat a pierogi?
55: Favorite type of fruit pie?
56: Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid?
57: Do you believe in ghosts?
58: Ever have a Deja-vu feeling?
59: Take a vitamin daily?
60: Wear slippers?
61: Wear a bath robe?
62: What do you wear to bed?
63: First concert?
64: Wal-Mart, Target or Kmart?
65: Nike or Adidas?
66: Cheetos Or Fritos?
67: Peanuts or Sunflower seeds?
68: Ever hear of the group Tres Bien?
69: Ever take dance lessons?
70: Is there a profession you picture your future spouse doing?
71: Can you curl your tongue?
72: Ever won a spelling bee?
73: Have you ever cried because you were so happy?
74: Own any record albums?
75: Own a record player?
76: Regularly burn incense?
77: Ever been in love?
78: Who would you like to see in concert?
79: What was the last concert you saw?
80: Hot tea or cold tea?
81: Tea or coffee?
82: Sugar or snickerdoodles?
83: Can you swim well?
84: Can you hold your breath without holding your nose?
85: Are you patient?
86: DJ or band, at a wedding?
87: Ever won a contest?
88: Ever have plastic surgery?
89: Which are better black or green olives?
90: Can you knit or crochet?
91: Best room for a fireplace?
92: Do you want to get married?
93: If married, how long have you been married?
94: Who was your HS crush?
95: Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way?
96: Do you have kids?
97: Do you want kids?
98: Whats your favorite color?
99: Do you miss anyone right now?
This child better not be trying to develop a PG accent. You better only pronounce the available syllables in milk and “backpack” does not have an ‘e’ in it! You better reconsider that word too.
Roscoe Lee Brown didn’t ingest all of Shakespeare’s Collected Works for you to start saying “beckpeck”.
I’LL NOT HAVE IT! -Clair Olivia...
“That man is a boil on the butt of humanity.”
– Ouiser Boudreaux as played by Shirley McClain in Steel Magnolias One of the best plays turned movie in the history of foreverdom.
escreveelianaescreve replied to your post: I have a lot of unpopular music opinions. I…
ahaha.. really? I’m sorry but that sounds so pathetic, it’s all about respect, you don’t like it, he likes it, just respect each other’s opinions and move on. A lot of people get stuck, can’t stand to disagree.. Well, guess what? We’re all different!
Yeah. notice how I didn’t call him a friend....
fuckyeahasianmen replied to your post: I have a lot of unpopular music opinions. I…
Girl, reggae is noisy to me, too. I can’t get with it. I’d like to, because to lots of people it makes me look & sound jerkish to say I don’t like reggae, but I’ve tried & I just can’t. Pan Africanism all day, but that ain’t MY culture, sorry
Basically! Again, not judging those who like it....
lindeasylovin said: Some people listen to whatever type of music they’re into for either religious reasons or for the fact that it has bearing on their lives, so be careful whose music you crtisize, there are crazy people out there…
That’s ridiculous. If that was the case, you couldn’t criticize or have a differing opinion about anything. If I say that I don’t like...
I have a lot of unpopular music opinions. I actually had someone stop speaking to me because I told him that I didn’t like reggae. It was that serious for him.
*shrugs*
fuckyeahasianmen replied to your post: whateverson replied to your post: M.I.A… Have you…
I can’t name ONE Jason Derulo song, but in my head, I can see the images from one sad video of his whenever I read his name on the internet. WHY does that boy exist? I don’t understand!!
He is Joker to my Batman. I for real want to fight this dude. I have no idea why but his face makes me want to punch...
whateverson replied to your post: M.I.A…
Have you seen Bad Girls? It’s made a believer out of many. But if you have seen it, then I can give you nothing better, and will not try to talk you outta your opinion. :Dyoutu.be/3Yuqxl2…
I have. That’s actually what sparked the post. It just sounds noisy to me. I know people love her and it’s not like LMFAO or Jason Derulo where I think...
M.I.A...
I just don’t get it.
Allow Yourself Morning
I was kind of quoted in the Chicago Tribune.
If you knew the kind of “time” I’ve been having the last few weeks/months/years, you’d understand why the traffic of The Root article and now this Tribune quote means a lot more than it probably should. No matter how much we like to think that what others think doesn’t matter, it’s just not true. I’ve never...
Mo'Kha X-Press Oh!: Soul Session: Tomboyish →
ramblingsofanurbanjawn:
Hmmmm……I remember this post VERY clearly. What I remember most though, is the post being expressly anti-female. That was my issue with it (and I can’t speak for Bassey, but it seemed to be her issue as well). There is nothing wrong (in my opinion) with being one of the guys. With being a tomboy. With being close with men. I am all those things.
My problem with the...
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That awkward moment...
when you’re scared to listen to a song that EVERYONE you know is raving about because it might have a coded reference to you that you’d rather never know about.
Allegedly.
The following was a comment left on my article at...
shesonone4real Stop trying to send us to whites for help! We know that they care less about our state of mind. If they cared they would vote to end the oppression instead of changing the color of it and selling it as a new “legislation”. Most psychiatrists/psychologists are white or were taught by whites. History has taught us that to this branch of medicine or any branch of...
Anonymous asked: Bassey, you are awesome. You are one of the most effortlessly funny and brilliant people I've ever come across on the Internet. It's such a shame that you unfairly get the most dumbasses to respond to your commentary and articles. I just want you to know that there are people who really appreciate all that you do to spread awareness of mental health issues. You are truly a gem.
Anonymous asked: I read your subsequent article about feeling like a fraud sometimes dealing with the Inspiration comments etc. I think for us who live in the shadows in our community, in our homes, in our families, not feeling alone is key, and somehow you provide that for alot of people. Also you give us a voice that we may not have otherwise in those same spaces. Everyday I'm striving to reach a place of...
Anonymous asked: or if it's the up before the steady descent. In january 2010 I found myslef curled up in a ball in my bed... Not moving for days at a time to do anything at all and ready to die. Somehow I managed to pull myself together enough to make it to a support group meeting since I couldn't afford therapy. It hasn't been perfect but I'm working on holding it together. I remember what...
graham-bailey replied to your post: I’ve been overdosing on episodes of Criminal…
He’s adorkable. He fits. :)
Ugh. he so is. I’m looking at him like, “Oh hey, boo! I know the Torah!”
I’ve been overdosing on episodes of Criminal Intent on Netflix. I haven’t had the attention span for reading lately so I lay in bed with my ipad (pause) and watch it until I fall asleep. I won’t admit to Insomnia so let’s just say that I watch about 4 episodes a night… starting at midnight.
I’m ending season 8 now and they’ve introduced Detective Zach...
Watchfriedfishandfeelings:
Do you see why I call her the misery chick?
Truthiness. Chrissy is a miserable pathetic broad. I don’t understand why folks were defending her all season. From the second she mollywopped clueless ass Kimbella, she’s proven she needs hugs, drugs and a job application.
Twitter really gets me way too irritated. I haven’t even been back for 12 hours and already, I’m over it.
People just don’t know/care/realize that there is such a thing as tone via internet. Anyone who says that you can’t read tone over the internet can’t read period. The same way a writer can convey tone and attitude via the written word in any arena, the same...
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Black People Don't Kill Themselves, Right? →
My latest for TheRoot.com on Don Cornelius’ death and the impact it could (and should) have on mental health awareness.
“There’s a woman on the internet who crushes things with her breasts! You...”
– My brother giving me a pep talk after my meltdown tonight
I can’t believe that in 2012, after all the statistics and evidence to the contrary, we are still engaged in the “black people don’t commit suicide/have mental illness” rhetoric.
It’s hurtful. It’s damaging. It’s bullshit.
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RIP Don Cornelius
http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2012/02/soul-train-creator-don-cornelius-dead-in-apparent-suicide.html
justwannaeat replied to your post: It’s Black History Month
AND Carter G. Woodson CHOSE February.
Exactly. And for a reason. I just think it’s useless to spend every single February upset that it’s only in February. I always learn new stuff around this time. For instance, I learned yesterday that the pull out bed and dry cleaning as we know it today were all based on...
It's Black History Month
Can we please save the “why do we only get the shortest month of the year” bellyaching? We get it. February is one month. It’s a short month. We can and should celebrate 12 months a year but how many of us actually do? It’s a month set aside that is directed and targeted. It reminds me of the greatness of African-Americans in this country and it gives me an opportunity to...
January 2012
183 posts
Latest From XOJane: Being Inspirational Kinda... →
The HazelNut: The Sun Hides Behind Clouds and... →
thehazelnuttt:
today morning came without promises speckled with disappointment and you do not know how this feels you and i were like words that never fit. we are still like this in memory there are sighs in my hair. we wear grass stains. and regrets. easy. remember you called me beautiful. waited …
It blows my mind when people blog poems I’ve long since forgotten. I’m...
I can’t stand the guilt trip tumblr posts. I think they’re unfair and condescending. Just because you hit a button to reblog something doesn’t mean you care more than someone who chooses not to.
There’s a tumblr floating around with a baby, naked and covered with some sort of flesh eating bacteria. The photos are sad, overwhelming and disturbing. The story is obfuscated...
